My Son Grieves the Loss of His Mom – What About School?

When your child experiences a loss, the grieving process can take a toll on their school work and their relationships at school. If this occurs, it is important to communicate directly with the school about the situation so that personnel and teachers are better able to assist your child as they work through the difficult process of grieving.

While teachers are not grief counselors and may not understand much about how it proceeds, it is vital that you schedule a time to talk with your children’s teachers and the school principal to discuss what is going on. As soon as possible after the loss occurs, set an appointment with relevant faculty and administration members to explain the situation.

Let them know about the loss, about the relationship of the person/animal/object/situation lost with your child, and then explain the impact that the loss is having on your child. Talk about changes you expect to see in their behavior, changes that you have already seen, and discuss how you and teachers/administration will communicate about any changes that will occur at home and at school.

Invite the school counselor or psychologist to attend the meeting, if one is available at your school. This person will be more aware of the grief process than other staff members at the school and can help outline the stages to expect your child to go through. The counselor might also recommend regular sessions for your child to meet with them so that they can work through it with professional guidance. If they don’t suggest it, you can request it.

Stay in communication with the school about the situation, and provide regular updates. Ask teachers about ways to encourage your child to still do their work at home or if they can modify your student’s workload for a time while they adjust to life after the loss. Encourage your school to visit GrievingStudents.org for more information about to help students who are grieving.

Work with a grief professional who can help you help your child through the loss. This can make the process easier for you and your child to handle. You can get tools to help your child do well in school and suggestions to help teachers help your child.

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An Advantage To Preschool?

If you have been fortunate enough to be a parent who has not had to put their child in any sort of formal child care, you may be very reluctant to have your child attend preschool. Preschool can be a frightening idea to many parents, but it is very beneficial for your child as well.

1.) Preschool allows your child to engage with other children on a regular basis. It is the perfect place to learn vital social skills like taking turns and engaging in conversations. Your child will learn how to successfully interact with other children.

2.) Preschool helps your child learn important motor skills. For example, your child will learn how to use scissors, and will develop fine motor skills using the toys and learning materials available in the preschool.

3.) Preschool helps your child learn independence and trust. This does not mean that your parent-child bond is broken. It means that your child’s anxiety about being away from you slowly begins to decrease, and he is able to engage in tasks and play on his own more confidently. He also learns how to trust another adult as his caregiver.

4.) Preschool sets the stage for academic learning in elementary school. This does not mean that the preschool you choose to have your child go to should be hard-core academically focused, but it does mean that being exposed to the alphabet, learning to write her name, and developing basic pre-math skills will help your child succeed when she enters Kindergarten.

5.) Preschool teaches children about routine, structure, and schedules. Even if your lifestyle is more laid back, it is important that your child know how to function in the wider world where the clock and authority figures play an important role in daily life.

6.) Preschool shows your child more about the wider world and her place in it. She begins to develop a sense of understanding about home, school, the neighborhood, the city, the state, the country, and how she fits in with each. She is also exposed to new ideas about the world around her, such as new animals and plants she’s never heard of or seen.

Preschool is a great experience for children. Even a few hours a week can give your child the leg up and the confidence he needs to move self-assured into the next phase of his life.

 

M.L. Page , M.ED.